Verbal Abuse and its Devastating Impact -Sage Bramhall ‏@mysageadvice-from my friend

Verbal Abuse and its Devastating Impact 
By Patricia Evans
Verbal Abuse is insidious. 
Verbal Abuse is endemic. 
Verbal Abuse impacts millions of people. 
Verbal Abuse and its denial are crazy-making 
Verbal Abuse usually occurs in secret. 
If you’ve heard, “You’re Too Sensitive” you’ve heard verbal abuse. 
Although many people have heard sticks and stones may break our bones but words will never hurt us, those who have suffered from verbal abuse know that words do hurt and can be as damaging as physical blows are to the body. The scars from verbal assaults can last for years. These psychological scars leave people unsure of themselves, unable to recognize their true value, their talents and sometimes unable to adapt to life’s many challenges. 
Except for name-calling, many people don’t recognize verbal abuse—especially when it comes from a person they believe loves them or from a person they perceive as an authority figure; or when it comes from a person who is in a position of power, for example, one’s boss, a family provider, one’s parent, or even an older sibling that one has learned to look up to in childhood. 
Unfortunately, when people don’t recognize verbal abuse for what it is, they may try to get the person who is putting them down, giving them orders, or “correcting,” denouncing, yelling at or ignoring them to understand them. Or, they may try to stop them by giving it back in kind. In other words, they may act out their anger. 
The circumstances under which verbal abuse takes place make a real difference in how to respond to it. In the workplace, for instance, an appropriate response to a very abusive boss might be to prepare a resume or to read the want ads. On the other hand, a child can’t very well escape from an abusive parent and so we, the observers and relatives of the child must be alert and ready to speak up for him or her. Keeping a record and letting others know what is going on are often good first steps. 
Since, in the majority of cases, people who indulge in verbal abuse are selective about whom they abuse, many people are surprised to hear that someone is experiencingh on-going and periodic abuse from someone they know and have always seen as nice and friendly. “Nice and Friendly” is the persona of many an abuser. Although many folks are as nice and friendly as they seem, some are not. 
This is so powerful and brought several of us through a tough time!

One response to “Verbal Abuse and its Devastating Impact -Sage Bramhall ‏@mysageadvice-from my friend

  1. Mike, this is something I looked up and found for a friend that had no idea what she was going through was truly verbal abuse. It was one of the worst forms of abuse because it appeared so hidden. Controlling words of rejection and words putting her down because of the things she believed and did that another just simply couldn’t understand. His lack of understanding of her was the abuse. He was brutal in the words that came from his mouth all in just the daily things she chose to do. It was his lack of understanding not the beautiful things she was doing for this world that was truly pitiful. I was saddend for everyone. But not recognizing the abuse, is as scary of the abuse itself. I cut and pasted it onto my notepad on my phone. Everytime I see something that resembles verbal abuse, I paste it into a text, or email. Making fun of someone is abusive and have led to far too many suicides and craziness.

    I love the line where the author says VERBAL ABUSE IS CRAZY MAKING. It makes you as insane as the person dishing it out.

    Blessings for your work and I just wanted to be clear this was something I saw and have shared with many others in some of the work I do, but it was certainly not a piece that I personally wrote. I hope my wisdom in seeing the truth of the words and spreading when it needs to be spread speaks for me. Blessings ~

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