Problems trusting People

I have an old friend who lives beside me but I didn’t see him since five years. Its not because he left to another city but its because he decided not to cross any streets again!! The guy lives in his house and he didn’t come out of it since years in order to avoid crossing the streets.

I don’t want you to think that my friend is a mad guy because the reason he is doing so is that a terrible accident happened to one of his friends while crossing the street one day so he decided to lock himself up not to experience a similar accident.

I know it sounds weird but it’s the same thing that people who have problems trusting others do. They just experience one betrayal or they even see it happening to one of their friends then they decide not to trust anyone else again.

Why do some people have problems trusting others?

If someone grew up in family where the parents were divorced because of trust issues he may automatically fear to trust other people. If the mother cheated on the father, the son may grow up having trust problems towards all women and vice versa.

A Person may also develop fear of trusting people if he saw one of his friends suffering badly because of trust issues. Its doesn’t really matter if he was the one who was betrayed or if he saw someone else suffering from betrayal because in both cases the the subconscious mind will still consider trusting other people dangerous.

Some parents keep feeding their children with false beliefs about trust. These parents just describe their past experiences thinking that they will happen to everyone else and as a result the child grows up having trust issues. ( see the article impossible is nothing for more information on false beliefs)



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