2012 a reflection

2012 a very strange and mixed year.

with my experiences in life which have had a lot of highs and a few very low moments too,i thought i had experienced most things but 2012 showed me otherwise.

2012 started reasonably well but by the end of january i had to yet again go up a gear and reignite the fight i started in 2009,

large care organisations appear to be buying up smaller ones and you may think that should improve care-but you would be wrong.

care it seems is about money and how much can be made from it and no longer about people or even care.

the cqc have had a lot of criticism from me also have the nhs and private care homes with one group in particular stooping lower than i thought was possible to keep me silent but no chance at all.

certainly i have been on both sides of police action and i respect the police fully,i have now given the police 3 a4 folders of evidence of accusations against one large mental health hospital group and i expect prosecutions to follow.from arms being held under hot taps,cold baths and numerous assault allegations from service users and now working with the police in these matters-3 years of hard work but if it means safety for others then it is worthwhile.

i have been intimidated,threatend and even asked to consider deal making -my answers is and always will be no-justice is what matters.

twitter for myself has been a strange year with 6 people who appeared to try and hound me by fair means or foul for their own gains etc-one is now employed by a large health care group but in 2013 that will also result in my satisfactory conclusion-mostly twiitter is filled with superb people some for fun,some wanting someone to listen to them and some people giving out great advice-i have made thousands of friends on twitter so a huge thank you to them,

so all in all a mixed 2012 with success and i am afraid some failures but 2013 will make me stronger than ever to fight for and gain justice for others.

happy 2013 to you all

On the Borderline of Life – Guest Post by Mike. Part 2

On the Borderline of Life – Guest Post by Mike. Part 2

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A short while ago I shared part 1 of Mike’s story about his battle to help his daughter ‘D’ with her mental health problems, here is the next instalment…

It is now April 2012, and the fight for ‘D’ is no longer with probation, the courts or even solicitors.

After a brief period of thinking everything will be good now for ‘D’ because she is diagnosed with BPD and in the mental health care system, ‘D’ is at last going to get help and after almost 3 years I can relax and enjoy ‘D’s recovery and progress HOW WRONG I WAS…

D’s violence continued but now towards staff in a low to medium secure unit. D was then transferred to a medium to high secure unit but she just got worse and more violent, this hospital is private and the NHS pay about £500 per night, £3500 per week for her to be there.  This hospital was inspected by the Care Quality Commission in November 2011 and their report into this hospital was in my opinion frightening…

Excerpts from the report:

  • bedrooms are locked through the day
  • starting from tonight we have to go to bed at 11pm
  • you get more privileges in prison
  • one service user stated they do not feel safe
  • on one unit service users could not get a cold drink
  • one person said “Its alright sometimes but at about 6-7pm goes into the restaurant because people get bored because there is nothing to do”
  • the new unit had been open since June 2011, the ward manager explained that none of the staff or managers had previous experience of medium secure units.
  • two service users said that a staff member shouted at them sometimes
  • all four staff the CQC spoke to said they struggled to get through a shift safely and felt unsafe

These are just little excerpts from the CQC inspection report from the ward where D is now in their so-called ‘care’.

From June 2011 to April 2012, 10 months, D has been involved in over 100 incidents of violence of self-harm.

The CQC is a regulator for mental health hospitals but it appears toothless.

I worry more about D now than I ever did when she was in prison, how can this be right?

I am at my wits end, but no matter how I feel I will fight for D and other patients/service users safety and care.

In part 3 I will tell of incidents with wire and batteries, and how D escaped through the same door 5 times on the so-called secure unit. i will at some point reveal the hospital ward…


Thanks to Mike for this post, I look forward to sharing Part 3.

Have you had experience of secure mental health units? What was it like for you?

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This is the first instalment of Mike’s story about his battle to help his step-daughter ‘D’ with her Mental Health problems…

Mike, D (17 on the right) and older sister.

My story started about 12 years ago (now 14 years ago),when I met my now wife.

We dated for about three weeks before it was decided  I was to meet the two younger daughters from her previous marriage,they were aged six and seven at the time.

We decided to meet the children on neutral ground so we met at the opticians.  The elder one was rather reserved and shy but the youngest one (D) started to untie my shoe laces,we all got on very very well and eventually we all moved in together and like most relationships we had our ups and downs but mostly happy times.

The years passed happily and without any major problems.

Then when D turned about 12 she was verbally bullied at school,within twelve months it turned to physical attacks and after numerous visits to  meetings at the school and the education authorities there was no satisfactory conclusion.

D’s elder sister attended the same school with no problems at all so after souls searching we decided to home school D with the education authorities visiting us at home and showing them the education we were doing and they where satisfied.

At 16 D went to college for child care but after a good twelve months there she decided to leave and after numerous courses etc she seemed to be losing interest in almost everything

But much worse was to follow.

D’s mom and I got married in April 2008 and D really enjoyed the wedding and appeared so happy.

But in January 2009 for some unknown reason D attacked with me with a knife and my wife phoned the police, it was agreed D would go and live with her biological father who lived out of area with his new wife and family.

D did not settle there and returned home in April 2009, but that was not the end just the beginning of D’s nightmares of living.

D attacked me with bleach,throwing tvs at me etc, over a dozen occasions.

On May 20th 2009 D was sent to Newhall prison for two months.

She told the police she meant it.

Even though I knew she did not mean it, we were devastated, she needed help not punishment and I would prove it…


Since May ’09 D has attacked me over 30 times, and also a probation officer, police and now prison officers. The Prison Governor told us D was getting worse on a daily basis.

We have been fighting to get D help for mental health, as we realised this may be the cause of her behaviour, but we were thwarted at every attempt.

In November 2009 D was assessed, the assessment reviewed the risk’s D posed in relation to mental health. But they were wrong, listing her as ‘low’ risk for suicide, self-harm, exploitation, self-neglect and non-compliance when there was evidence of much higher risk for each, and listed as ‘moderate’ risk for violence and aggression when there were over 30 incidents, arrests and assaults she had perpetrated that were evidence otherwise.

I eventually got this assessment investigated and proven to be wrong and inaccurate.

The fight was not over, D continued to be in and out of prison.

In February 2011 D was finally diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and sectioned under S37 of the Mental Health Act and the fight to get her help continues. I love D and want her to get the right help and support so that she can come home and be with her family where she belongs.

To be continued…

Mike will be blogging here so make sure to pop by and see his latest posts :)

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How can friends and family help?

This section is for friends or family who wish to support someone they know who has borderline personality disorder.

  • People with BPD can have very low self-esteem, and it may help if you remind them of good things about themselves.
  • A person with BPD is likely to feel emotionally unstable, so it can help if you are able to keep calm and stable. You may need to find more support for yourself (see Carers UK under Useful contacts).
  • Your friend or relative may have more than average changes of mood and attitude, and feelings of being abandoned or let down by you. Try not to take this personally.
  • Try to keep in mind that the person you care about wants very much to be loved and cared for but may not know how to ask for help.
  • If the person you care about is not receiving any help or therapy then you could help them by offering to find information about therapies that might work for them.
  • Learn about the disorder and find out whether there are any groups to support families and friends, as well as the person with BPD.
  • You cannot give someone else a sense of self-worth. People with BPD have to find their own way to this, through therapy and hard work. But you can support and encourage them as they go through this process, which is likely to take time.
  • http://www.mind.org.uk-source